02/06/2026
I don’t have anything uplifting to say.
But this account will remain active.
I want to apologize if you’re finding out through this post, it’s the best I can do at the moment.
It was the greatest privilege of my life to be married to a badass man who wasn’t afraid of anyone or anything, and who could figure out just about everything.
He was my safe place, and I didn’t need anyone else, and neither did he.
I have pain in a way I can’t describe, and I won’t even try, because as Danny would say, this ain’t Dear Diary.
Even at the end, surrounded by all of us, he looked around and said,
“Why is everyone being so dramatic?”
At his absolute weakest physically, he was still stronger than anyone I’ve ever met, and sharp as ever.
Thank God for family, because this s**t is hard enough.
I know there are other people quietly fighting. Keep fighting, man.
If you feel like doing something in his honor, don’t send flowers. Adopt a pet. Volunteer. Donate to an animal shelter.
I’m not looking forward to explaining our inside jokes to people who just don’t get it for the rest of my life.
This just fu***ng sucks.
I’ll share service information as soon as I have it. It will be in Santa Barbara.
His legacy will live on through Tiki Diablo. With family beside me, we’ll continue what we started.
I don’t have it in me to talk on the phone right now. Messages are okay, and I’ll answer when I can.I’m keeping my circle small while I get through this. Thank you for understanding.
Love you Jooj
