Just Perfick

18/03/2024

This week is NeuroDiversity Week in New Zealand.



It is my privilege to serve and Coach incredible people who know that they need help to do life stuff.



There's a lot of talk about ADHD being a "SuperPower" and it's true, there's a lot of good stuff about ADHD - there's also some pretty serious, not good stuff too.



We need help to manage our everyday, it's not easy asking for help nor to help someone who doesn't understand the contradictions in ADHD - we can be superfocused and knock out a heap of work and we can be paralysed with indecision. It doesn't make sense to us either...



Whether you understand or not, we're asking you to show a bit of compassion, we've all got something going on - let's start a kindness revolution. Who can you express kindness to today?

15/03/2024

There are many who would say "don't use your page to highlight anyone else!

They'll steal potential clients from you."



In my opinion, if she connects with someone from my Tribe, it means that person gets what they need. Surely that's what matters most.



Holly and I met virtually, back in 2020 on an app called "ClubHouse" where, like a radio station you can dial in and speak with many other people talk-back style, and we joined 7 other outstanding women in the "Fearless Speaking Academy".

I have to say, that her many attributes don't adequately convey her depth of character, nor her work history, the breadth of her experience.

She is a bundle of energy and enthusiasm, a genuine person who lives life to the full.

It's an incredible privilege to share this platform with her, so, with that said, I'd like to introduce Holly Hartman, an amazing woman who uses her ADHD brilliance to help women around the world connect with their Thread of Brilliance.

She is a work of Heart - pun intended.

Currently, she is Marketing Specialist at Commonwealth Pain and Spine in St Matthews USA, she is also an Event Curator.

Other roles she has filled: Director of Sales & Marketing at Chiropractic Care/Auto Accident Healthcare, Specialty Pharmaceutical Sales OB/GYN at Upsher-Smith, PharmaDerm and Takeda Pharmaceuticals. She also studied Interior Design at Eastern Kentuky University.

Possibly her greatest advocates are her two amazing sons, one at University and the other a budding Entrpreneur at just 8 years old, while attending "Elementary/Grade" or Primary school for those of us here in the Antipodes.

It's an incredible privilege to share this platform with her, check her out!

13/03/2024

Coaching is an investment in you. Your future, your change, your hopes, desires and outcome. We all need one - isn't it time you got one?

03/03/2024

If you don't - do you know where to begin, who to ask or where you can buy the right tools?

19/02/2024

I was looking out the window the other day, trying to figure out what the cat was looking at. At first I cleaned my glasses thinking they were dirty, then I realised that I couldn't see because the window was dirty - this lead me to consider what else I might not be seeing clearly.


Our sub-conscious brain does a Google search 300ths of a second before whatever it is we're engaging with hits our conscious brain. This leads to a series of interesting sequences: sub-conscious search => finds past experience + past emotions attached to those experiences + results of that past experience(s) => impacts our current situation. Our now/today reaction(s)/response(s) flow out of the past experiences, influencing how we perceive the current situation.

What does this mean? If you had a similar experience that resulted in hurt or emotional wounding, then you will react to today's situation with the hurt and pain from yesterday. So if you had a bad experience as a kid, now you're an adult with a child's hurt and you have the strength & power to do something about it - so potentially you have an explosive situation; conversely you may freeze up like you did as a kid and not cope at all.

Ok, so now what? If we approach "over-reactions" with curiosity and compassion rather than judgement, we may find that we're able to help a person begin the healing process.

In other words, if someone is mad, perhaps there's a good reason they're mad, and your compassion towards them in their angry moment may look like, "I can see you're hurting." It may be that that is all it takes to diffuse their "unreasonable" anger.

Dr Brene Brown says, "If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three things to grow: shame, secrecy and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in a petri dish and douse it with empathy, it cannot survive.

13/02/2024

Very grateful today for those who have helped get Cecil to where he is today.

Loving on you Cyndilu Miller, Berns Galang, Tammy Price, Tracy Otsuka and especially my Sweet Man: Malcolm McCall.

Thank you for your courage, ADHD brilliance, strengths, compassion, encouragement and unwavering support. I am loved well. Thank you Dream Team!

27/01/2024

Feedback is appreciated especially from those NOT in NZ as there is a l!nk in the de$cript!on that I need to know works - thanks so much for your help!

31/12/2023

Happy New Year!!

22/08/2022

Boredom isn't just for humans - animals/pets also need diverting activities/interaction during their day. So what? Creating fun activities gives you both a dopamine hit = feel good hormones = repeated activity.

22/08/2022