14/06/2024
Red Mushy Bucket hats are now available at The Curiosity Shop!!
Hand crocheted toadstool hats by Amaranth Brocade
I absolutely adore Amanita Muscaria those big red fairy home toadstools so I'm really excited to announce these will be coming to the store soon! 🤩
I got my son and my rooster to model.
I wanted to give you all a little update, a bit of a life update which I don't normally do but I'm not really a person who separates business from my personal life because my work is me and it's also my family because in some way my family and close friends are all involved. They've all helped out, they've all put up with some strange smells and they've all been willing to give something a go even if it might be a tad gross. 😅
I haven't updated the website much because computer work is so difficult for me, I just cannot grasp technology fluently so it takes a lot of concentration. Currently, it's something I don't have a lot of.
My son is 6, he was diagnosed with autism a few years ago after he began to struggle starting school. He's always been an unsettled kid, a kid who doesn't understand boundaries no matter how many times you explain or teach. He also doesn't understand social cues, he doesn't understand when someone is being mean and unfortunately he doesn't fully understand if someone is psychically harassing him to be cruel either.
So he's been home from school due to "escalated bullying" mind you by a kid who is twice his age and size. My son didn't tell me, unfortunately this is where his communication skills are absolutely non existent. He lives in the moment and although he keeps a lot of emotion inside his tiny little body, he keeps it to himself and marches to the beat of his own drum, "you didn't ask so I didn't tell you".
Fortunately though he has been able to form a strong friendship with a child that is almost 2 years older. This child understands him, doesn't care that he is different and this child is sort of like his voice when he cannot find his own. It was this friend who informed us that something bad was happening to my son at school and from there we were able to uncover some shocking revelations to the extent of the harassment.
It had gotten psychical, and I had seen a few odd marks after school and I always ask, but my son is one track minded if you ask at the wrong time, when he's focused on a game or his toy vehicles (he's obsessed with vehicles) that's it, you've blown your chance to find out. He'll not communicate about the subject from then on out and it's quite frustrating. Sometimes it can be days or weeks later of gently approaching the subject again to find out the truth.
On the other hand my son is also very accident prone so bumps and scraps aren't unusual because he is the type of kid that will bump his head on the exact same hand rail 3 times in the space of 10 minutes. 🤦🏻♀️🤣
Our school is very very small and I think being so isolated we do lack certain services and the training in some aspects of things like autism, where you cannot just snap your fingers and bam, everyone understands autism and how differently on a massive scale it affects an individual.
I can definitely say that I don't think anyone anywhere, professional or teacher or even a parent will ever fully have all the answers when it comes to individuals on the spectrum because every single person is unique and always will be. The only real difference between those who are neurodiverse and those who are neurotypical is that there are some neurotypical people (who are often the loudest) that think there is no possible way to exist on the planet other than how they think one should view the world, act or be, because they are so sure they are correct above all.
Now I think those who are neurodiverse & neurotypical but also open minded, know that there is a much bigger world than what close-minded people think there is purely revolving around them. 😜
Those who care enough will and it's not just adults, my son's 8 year old friend has cared enough to learn that, okay my friend is being harassed and he doesn't seem to realise or understand he needs to tell a teacher so I'll have to help him.
And this is what compassion on earth is and where it starts at the beginning of ones life.
Anyway, it's not because our life is over, it's not because no one is doing anything to help us, that's definitely not true. We are just going through this and sometimes in our situation it's safer for my child to be at home and he needs a bit more extra help and care than maybe a few other children his age so it does slow me down but that can be a good thing, I am not particularly ever organised, I am sometimes going so fast I forget to slow down and see the beauty of the world around me.
