21/06/2026
SOUL NOTE | When Women Need Space
I used to think needing space meant I was failing. That it was something you were only allowed if you were sick, on holiday, or had earned the right through sheer exhaustion.
Somewhere along the way, I learned that stillness was uncomfortable. That doing, helping and serving were how you proved your worth.
So I kept serving, even when every part of me was quietly asking for something different.
It wasn’t until burnout forced me to stop that I finally understood.
I didn’t need space because I was lazy. I needed space because I couldn’t function without it.
And slowly, I began to build it in. Into my mornings, into my home, into the way I work, and into the room with the green sofa that faces east and catches the morning light until lunchtime. The room I designed with a future version of me in mind, and then finally let myself arrive in.
That room became the place I could stop performing. Stop pushing. Sit with myself long enough to hear what was actually true.
In the quiet, I found something I hadn’t even realised I was looking for. A deeper worth. A deeper belief in myself. A woman I recognised.
When I say women need space, I don’t mean we need to disappear from our lives. I mean we need room to hear ourselves again. Room to soften. Room to stop performing. Room to meet the woman who has been there all along, quietly waiting to be known.
I’m writing about this right now as part of a collaborative book with Gather the Women Publishing called When Women Need Space, a collection of honest stories from women about space, stillness and coming back to themselves.
And it feels deeply connected to the work I do inside homes.
Because this is the work that sits underneath the interiors. The reason I design from the inside out. The reason I believe a home can do more than look beautiful.
A home can hold you while you find your way back to yourself.
If this resonates, I’d love to hear from you. Send me a message or drop something in the comments. These are the conversations I’m here for.