22/10/2022
Do you know how powerful your voice is? How powerful are the words that come out of our mouths?
Whatever negative you say, and no matter how hard they try not to listen (even if he/she didn't hear it), it will somehow affect him/her. For example, you told your sister "Pangita pud ui!" because you want her to be conscious of how she looks and be more presentable for wherever she's going. Though your intentions are good, the way you said it is not and it negatively affects the confidence of the person you're talking to. It would be better if you say "nice! Pero murag mas nice ni" or "gwapa! Mas better ná kung mamugkot ka".
If you keep saying negative things about that person (libak), even more if you add words like "negative predictions" (tsismis), you are actually declaring bad events to happen to that person. Then we say "nababaan jud" or "la jud diay kog baba kay nahitabo man" and I hope you're not happy with the news that what you just said actually happened. Proverbs 11:9 "Evil words destroy one's friends; wise discernment rescues the godly. Proverbs 15:4 says, "Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit."
Swearing is also a form of verbal abuse that can certainly lead to negative effects. It could lead to increased stress, anxiety, depression, and a decreased sense of belonging.
Does pamalikas, libak, tsismis, and pagpandaot affect the one who speaks them?
Yes. What you release is what you attract. If you release negative energy, you'll attract more negative energy. The world calls it the Law of Attraction. Others call it karma, or what goes around comes around. Do you expect those friends you were with to compliment you when you turn your back after gossiping? I don't think so. There's even a high chance that you're the topic when you're not around. And that thought will surely give you anxiety.
Therefore, always be careful with what you say. It would be best now to change your ways.
If you want peace in your life, stay away from these kinds of people. If you're one of them, please know that laughing at one's mistake or hoping for someone to fail won't make them less than you. Pulling someone down doesn't bring you up.
When you are regularly optimistic, positive energy will also come to you. Positive friends, positive outcomes, less stress. Yes, it's easier said than done, but I didn't say change comes overnight. It will always take time and effort. If you slipped, stand up and get back on track. Changes start when you decide.
This is Hugh, saying --Be mindful of your words, tone and approach. May God be with you, always.
Happy Sunday, everyone!
