11/07/2026
Did anyone catch that spare tire in our laundry deck 🛞😆
I don't know how many times I've heard, "You work in design? Your house must be so nice!" I used to feel almost ashamed admitting the truth. But not anymore. Here to tell you that the nicest homes you see on socmed take a LOT of work to maintain, and despite the mess I'm always complaining to my family about, I love our not-always-guest-ready house, spackled and water damaged walls and all.
What matters is that we're always working on it. When something needs repairing, we bring it to the house doctor (i.e. our handyman, or a specialist pro like a contractor/engineer). We try not to feed it too much junk (shout out to *cough* my husband *cough*), and we—okay mostly I—declutter as much as we can to keep our spaces open.
Decoration may be what makes a home look good, which lets us feel good in it too. But looking good was never really the point. When we take care of the home, just like when we take care of ourselves, we're honoring it. That doesn't mean obsessing over making every corner IG or TikTok worthy. That's just another layer of stress we don't need.
The most beautiful homes I've stepped into were rarely about how things looked. They were about how I felt in their spaces, and how much of the people living there came through. I could walk into a book hoarder's home and feel all the love they carry, just by how they display their treasured collections. Or step into a home built around someone's love of cooking and entertaining, and see how every room reflects it. For years I've asked my clients, "How do you want to feel in your space?" But maybe the better question is "What DO you LOVE, and how does it show in your space?" What looks good fades; what we love doesn't.
And finally, this one's more for me than anyone else. If it's not finished yet, it's OK. As long as we're taking steps to get things repaired, staying organized, making do with what we have, and keeping a plan for when the budget allows, there's nothing to be ashamed of. We're so lucky to have this house, and we love it in spite of its imperfections, and because of them too. It's part of our family, through and through 🏠�