04/30/2026
My body remembered before I looked at the date on the calendar. It was one year ago, I was getting ready for the day when my phone rang and I saw Jillās name on the screen. I assumed she was calling about the land they were purchasing in South Africa. I answered expectantly - my voice hopeful and excited for her and Bob. A dream fulfilled after all these years!
The news that he passed peacefully in his sleep brought me to my knees. Dave walked into the room, phone in hand, announcing he was texting Bob to see if they closed on the property. As soon as he glanced up and saw me, he knew something was deeply wrong.
We had to film a walkthrough that day. Iāll never forget stepping into an empty bedroom between takes to sit on the floor and weep. My friend Summer came with me to reapply makeup on my red face and puffy eyes. Our sound guy, Grant, looked at me each time I stepped away and nodded his head, silently letting me know heād turn my microphone off so I could sob in private.
A few days later, we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. I almost canceled the party. It felt all wrong. Celebrating amidst such sorrow. Yet, isnāt that what this life is all about? Seeking out joy with a stubborn and relentless hope despite circumstances.
We went on to finish Mr. Bobās cabin as a family later that summer. Appropriately, the rain poured down as we prayed through the cabin, inscribing scripture on the walls.
If youāre reading this and facing something in your life that seems crazy - like buying property in South Africa in your 70ās - can I encourage you to take our beloved Mr. Bobās advice? He told me countless times, āJen, my nameās already written in the book. I canāt control my beginning or my end. Only God can. My job in the in-between is to simply live and love well.ā
So much is out of our control and thatās okay. The people in our path, the choices we make, the adventures we say āyesā to, the daily faithfulness⦠thatās all within our grasp and we can choose to do it all with grace, kindness and love. Letās choose to live and love well today in honor of my unlikely and dearly missed friend. š¤