12/30/2024
🐄🐑🐣 Keep It 🐣🐑🐄
By: Natosha Black Foster
You have always heard the saying, if you don’t use it you will lose it. This is very true. After realizing this on the farm, I see how much truth there is to this phrase. In my opinion, it had to have been a farmer who coined that phrase.
You see, when you have a dairy cow, you must milk the cow on a regular basis, or she will dry up and quit producing milk. Let me tell you…. Our cows get moody when we don’t milk them too. When it is time to dry them off, which is a must at least two months prior to them calving, they start fussing at us… their moo’s can be heard from the entire neighborhood I imagine. We even had a neighbor call asking if something was wrong once because of the commotion one of our cows, Harper, was causing. She was mad! She didn’t understand why we stopped milking her. To her, she was no longer needed, and her milk slowly dried up… until the calf was born.
This is also true for vegetation. Cucumbers, tomatoes, and even blueberries are all the same way. Of course, there is a time frame for their production, but it can be shortened if the fruit is not picked in a timely manner, and consistently while it is being produced. They will dry up and stop producing sooner than anticipated and earlier than the season should end if you are not tending to them and picking their fruit.
Relationships are the same way as cows and fruit. There is much to learn from the farm! A relationship, whether it is friendship, or a marriage, must be tended to thrive. If one person is doing all the giving (hence the producing of fruit or milk), and the other person is not tending, then the relationship will dry up.
So often relationships end because of miscommunication or the lack thereof. Do you desire to keep that relationship you have with one another in good health? Then nurture it. Call the person, not just a text. Have lunch or dinner dates. Plan to spend time with that person. This goes for spending time with God too.
If it is a spouse, then plan a date night at least once a month. A date night doesn’t have to be out of the house… cook a finger food dinner and enjoy a movie in the living room and pretend you are at the movies together. Make some popcorn. Most importantly turn off the electronic devices and focus on the quality time with your companion.
If it is a friend, then make sure to plan a lunch date or shopping date. Call them at least twice a month. I understand life is busy, but life is not a guarantee and time is just borrowed.
May you take a lesson from the farm and apply it to your life. Don’t neglect your relationships. Don’t let them dry up. Nurture and be attentive to those you love. Enjoy life with them and let them know they are needed. God bless, from my little homestead farm.